We manage processes, numbers, and resources, but people are meant to be led. Great leaders recognize our humanity, our free will, our uniqueness, and the true form of leading is accomplished through influence.
Leadership Starts with You
Iconic basketball coach John Wooden said, “First be best, then be first.” This line gives the imperative to earn our place as leaders. Some might think leaders are merely appointed, and that appointment is sufficient to claim authority, but understanding leadership as merely positional misses the nature of leadership altogether. More tragically, understanding leadership in this singular way omits the secret to effective leadership. Appointments are meant to reflect a deeper dynamic, an authority not based on position, but integrity.
“First be Best, then be first.” - Coach John Wooden
Integrity Matters
But wait a minute, isn’t integrity just about being reliable and trustworthy? Yes, it is about those things, but in a leadership capacity, these traits translate to reliably embodying the skills, determination, know-how, and vision to reach the goals for the team. It’s about being the type of person your team can trust to take them to where you’re being called upon to go.
And being that person is not just about your team. When you are the best, when you are the person that can reliably take your team to where they need to go in a trustworthy, competent manner, they will respect you. But even more importantly, you will respect yourself, which will mean your manner will be in alignment with your leadership actions. At the end of the day, knowing you have given yourself and others your best helps you earn not just personal confidence but the confidence of those you seek to influence.
It Changes Others
People experience hope and garner inspiration when someone demonstrates how to overcome an obstacle or meet a desired goal. The greatest throughout history is regarded as the greatest because they not only cast a vision, they worked tirelessly to gain the knowledge and pathways to achieving it. They showed people what was truly possible in new and exciting ways. All effective leaders, through their own example, give people hope.
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Self-Awareness Equals Better Relationships
Self-awareness is the product of intentional self-examination. Sometimes we are surrounded by such noise that it takes an intentional appointment to make room for the stillness needed for contemplation and getting in touch with ourselves. This understanding of our own emotional states, moods, and motivations in turn allows us to better empathize with others, which is a critical leadership quality.
One Ridiculously Simple Secret to Higher Team Productivity
Gallup research has found that 67% of employees whose managers communicated their strengths were fully engaged in their work, while only 31% of employees whose managers only communicated their weaknesses were engaged in their work. As leaders we frequently spend untold hours procuring trainings and seminars to improve metrics, but as the German poet and critic Johann Wolfgang von Goethe once said, “Instruction does much, but encouragement everything."
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“Training is about behavior change. People are doing something one way, and we want them to do it another way. Alternatively, they don’t know how to do something at all, and we need them to do it well. But changing behavior is more than just informing people of the right way to do something and hoping for the best. We have to understand the environment in which the behavior occurs.”
The Power of a Smile: A Secret Ingredient to Employee Engagement
Today, I was asked to sit in on an employee relations situation with a team leader and her employee. When arrived, the angst was high, many emotions and concerns were thrown out at once that I cannot even hear clearly. (thinking to myself, how am I going to be able to help, yikes!) So they took turns to talk and hear the other one with respect (they vowed me with this). My job was to listen, not to "listen to understand" or "listen to solve" BUT LISTEN WITH PRESENCE, trusting the Spirit will show me the next step.
We distilled it down to this very quickly: we needed the employee to stay because production is busy and have high demands to meet in order to serve the customers, not because the team leader was being difficult (she herself has sacrificed much of her family time to serve) so we asked kindly: will you please help out the company, and he said absolutely. Then next up, he has been dealing with a lot in his personal life and therefore admitted he has been daydreaming a bit while he's on the line and could not catch everything. The team leader is extraordinarily accountable and always points out to make sure he is doing his job well. Still, she cares very much about him and admits that he usually does a good job; only recently, there have been more errors. So, we explained that accountability is the form of love; she corrects him because she wants him to succeed, BUT while we are overworked and under pressure, we could still have some fun and lightheartedness, so I challenged the team leader to catch him doing something great every day. Finally, I challenged them to high-five each other every day, and they immediately fist-bumped each other on the spot and smiled. I am so amazed at their receptiveness.
We crave to understand and be understood, and we yearn to care about each other. Humanity is created to love. I don't ever underestimate the power of a touch or the power of a smile. People can hear your smile over the phone, and people can feel your smile down the road and around the corner before they even see you. KEEP SMILING! Lift other's spirits. Sometimes it is not as hard as we make it out to be! :)
-an average gal who gets to work with incredible souls
Keep Growing
Guest Post by Brittany Kirk, Gibson Insurance
This year has been wrought with challenges…that’s quite an understatement, isn’t it? But, ever the optimist, I’ve recently found myself thinking about how each challenge has presented an incredible opportunity for growth.
I’ve found myself repeating the mantra: with great challenge comes great opportunity.
Shelter-in-place required businesses to rethink their business models. Layoffs and furloughs required employees to rethink their careers. E-Learning required families to rethink their normal interactions and schedules. Remote work has required us to rethink how we collaborate with teams and how we serve clients. The list goes on. Each of these challenges has presented an opportunity to shed the old and embrace the new. We have been forced outside of our comfort zones, outside of the familiar, and into unknown territory. But it’s in the unfamiliar where we experience the most growth.
There are two ways that we respond to hardship – we can wish it away, hoping that the pain will go away as quickly as possible, or we can embrace the challenge and grow through the struggle.
Our world is still being turned upside-down every single day. We have no idea how long this pandemic will last, but you can bet that we’re going to continue to face new and different challenges every step of the way. And each of those challenges will present a new and different opportunity. The question is, how will you make the most of those opportunities?
No one wishes for pain. No one wanted a pandemic or e-learning, or to close their business, or to lose their job. And yet, the way we respond will determine how we come out on the other side.
We are weary, yet we are finding strength we never knew we had. We are tired, yet we face each day knowing that there are people counting on us to show up. We long for the “old normal,” yet we stay hopeful for the future.
It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to be weary, but we must not give up.
We must keep going. We must keep growing.
In the Time of Uncertainty, I Offer You Little, Yet My Best
In the last few weeks, our fight against COVID-19 has taken our country and our world by storm and thrust us into a sea of uncertainty. In the midst of this storm, I appreciate my LinkedIn network community as a source of advice, encouragement, motivation, positivity and leadership lessons.
It has taken me a while to write since our last post because I honestly struggled with what I could possibly share that our network and media have not already shared.
If you are a leader and/or business owner, know that I admire you for the sheer responsibilities that you are carrying on your shoulders right now. The tough decisions that demand your attention that impact people’s livelihood, health, and safety far exceeded our normal day to day conversations about employee engagement and fulfillment. In this tough time, we are called to leadership qualities such as vulnerability, courage, transparency, and authenticity.
“Our hard times produce in us perseverance, perseverance, character, and character, hope. ”
While you are in the midst of this journey, what little I can offer, is indeed the best I can offer: consider where the source of your strengths and wisdom are coming from. Remember that while we are afflicted in every way, we’re not crushed; perplexed but not driven to despair (2 Corinthians 4:8); but to know with full confidence that our hard times produce perseverance, perseverance, character, and character, hope (Romans 5:3-4); and character is the substance that great leadership is made of.
In an environment where the uncontrollable is mounting, I dare to let go and know that God is faithful. Be blessed and be well, my friends. Please know that I am praying for you, your business, and your family.
Controlling vs. Leading: Are You a Bottleneck?
I was new on a team one time and found myself partnering with a truly talented individual. Over time, she and I shared our thoughts on how the team had some inefficiencies. Soon after, I got curious and asked why she was not speaking up about the ineffectiveness. It turned out that she did not feel as though she could; she was never once asked for ideas and input, and additionally, her manager appeared to be very attached to the current process. Over time, this created a feeling for her that no one was interested in her opinion. Maybe you’ve felt that way before too? Perhaps you may have caused others to feel that way unintentionally?
Do you remember the last time you wanted to be controlled and monitored? Managing for results is an essential function, but managing by controlling can stifle creativity, the individual’s willingness to commit, and their drive to deliver exceptional results.
To lead is to focus on people first, mission always. Leaders who manage this way know that to deliver results, it’s about the people. Understanding their people’s motivation, heart (purpose and passion), and talent, they seek to drive a team’s motivation, knowing that at the end of the day, it’s a motivated team that accomplishes a mission.
At a basic level, people crave a sense of purpose and want to build trusting relationships; therefore, servant leaders focus on leading and inspiring. They know their responsibility is to take care of their people, and their people will then take care of the mission. When we lead, we should first engage the heart of those we’re leading, and then we can leverage the passions and talents of our people to get things done. This approach becomes empowering to all involved—our people deliver excellent outcomes, and the company thrives.
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Be a Superhero. Be a Leader.
Two weeks ago, I had the opportunity to learn from the Cultural Intelligence Center by attending their Cultural Competency Training. The most profound experience for me was an activity where we had to start by describing a significant challenge our world face today and then consider what would happen if we left that challenge as is (not do anything about it). Lastly, we had to consider what would happen if that challenge overcame the world. Once we'd done that, we built a "superhero," equipping that superhero with special powers to overcome that challenge.
Be a Superhero. Be a Leader.
Our group had decided to make our superhero a powerful fairy (stay with me here). Our fairy has a bag of fairy dust that contains vulnerability, openness, understanding, appreciation, recognition, empathy, humility, and so on (it has everything because our fairy is a superhero).
In a world where we are diverse, be it race, culture, gender, age, education, or knowledge level, etc., what if we focus on being open and understanding from where others are coming? What if we considered the experiences that shape who others are? What would the world look like? Under stress, we tend to default to familiarity, to that comfort zone that makes us feel safe. But this isn't where change happens. To enact change, either in others or ourselves, avoid creating stressful experiences. Be considerate in your words and communication style. Be open, be a good listener, try to understand, be appreciative, and know that each person is valuable. Let that overcome the world instead.
Leading Others: 5 Disciplines to Multiply the Genius Around You and Avoid Becoming a Diminisher!
Liz Wiseman, the author of the insightful book Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter, says that there are two types of leaders. The first type drains intelligence, energy, and capability from the people around them. They always need to be the smartest person in the room. Then there is the second type of leader: the multiplier. Multipliers lead by using their intelligence to amplify the capabilities of the people around them. When these leaders walk into a room, light bulbs go off over people’s heads, ideas flow, and problems get solved.
Multiplier vs. Diminisher
When we become a leader, we are motivated and hoped to be a multiplier. However, we can unintentionally become a diminisher if we’re not intentional about our drivers. When I heard Wiseman speaking at a conference ten years ago, I had an “aha” moment when I realized that I was an accidental diminisher. I was leading an employee who was capable and smart, but I tried to protect and save her from challenging situations. When I rescued her, she didn’t get the opportunity to solve problems herself and learn from her experiences. Although I didn’t realize it at the time, my job as a leader was to be a coach and a supporter. Since that realization, I learned to invest in her growth instead of jumping to rescue her from situations, and she began to thrive, and today she's a great leader in her profession.
It takes intentionality to be an effective leader. Sometimes, that intentionality is about knowing our blind spots and making sure we don't become that accidental diminisher. Use the below checklist, illustrating the five disciplines of a multiplier to do a self-check.
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